Not fun to discuss.
But after Monday Night Football, I went to a favorite hangout of mine. And my friend, S, who is a hairdresser, bartender, mother, and grandmother, and a former victim of domestic abuse, vented to me and one other patron.
She relayed, healthily, the story of how her son-in-law recently, and in the past, had abused her, her daughter, and her grandchildren by the transitive property.
My friend, S, had been through this before, on her own with her own former a-hole spouse, so she understands her daughter’s predicament, and how much she must protect her daughter, her five grandchildren, and even herself from the abuse (physical, verbal, emotional, and property damage) that her son-in-law is inflicting.
I instantly grabbed my phone and Googled “Battered Women’s Shelters.”
There are so MANY resources out there, both locally and nationally; however, women are often socialized to fly under the radar and make things better without outside help.
That is simply an injustice. To everyone.
So here is what I stumbled across with fewer than 7.42 minutes of effort.
1.) Valley Trauma Center – “Interpersonal violence can affect anyone. No one should suffer alone. If you have been assaulted, you have the right to information and support. We are here to help.”
2.) Safe Passage Live – “Safe Passage clients have a 95% success rate in breaking the cycle of domestic violence and creating a new life for themselves. They are our Role Models sharing their life stories to inspire other women and children to a New Life!”
3.) LAPD Online Communities – “Domestic violence is more than just a ‘family problem'; it is a crime. The Los Angeles Police Department (LAPD) recognizes that domestic violence is a major problem in Los Angeles County and throughout the United States. Each year, more than two million women are victims of domestic violence, and one million children are physically abused.”
4.) AARDVARC.ORG – “This site is for victims of violence, their families and friends, and the agencies and programs which serve them, both public and private. The goal of this website is to assist efforts to aid and support those trying to remove themselves from abusive situations and build healthier, stronger lives. ”
5.) Violence Unsilenced – (National) – “Survivors submit their personal stories of abuse in their own words, and two are posted live on the site each week. Readers take an annual pledge to listen, and the intention for the comment section is a space, supportive safe.”
This is a large and unspoken about problem; we need to end that.
To be just: do not strike your spouse either. Abuse is not one-way nor gender-specific.
PLEASE speak up. What can YOU do to assist a battered woman?
Know it or not: we all know one…
Sidney Patrick writes at My Mother in Law is Still Sitting Between Us… Find her on Twitter